I don’t have kids, I would like to, but I don’t know if it will ever happen. This isn’t really about kids, or having children. Its about finding yourself with teenagers, they aren’t teenagers though.
Growing up with older parents its different. There are different challenges. Right now my dad he is turning 79, my mum 74.
Fuck it, fuck this shit.
My dad has dementia, my mum is drowning, she isn’t handling it well. I know there isn’t something right with her.
I just want to run away. If I think about it too much, the world and everything just sits on my shoulders waiting for me to snap. Now I have to pack up and move.
I live on the other side of the country, now I have to move back. Leave my friends, my partner, changer unis. Get a new doctor, dentist and everything else under the sun. What is the other option I let them sit in that house and rot. I can’t do that. There is no one who feels the overwhelming pain of taking on two people and everything that comes with them.
It’s not just being there, its cooking, cleaning helping with the bills. Its everything. These two people don’t know what is best for them any more. Everything I do, I get talked back to, told I am wrong, that I know nothing. It all sounds so familiar. I have two teenagers.
I didn’t get to go through the fun stuff.
the worst part is in the end I have to do this alone. I will have peoples support, but they wont be able to be there 24/7, no that will be me.
I get to watch as slowly these people that I knew completely disappear and what will I be left with but two strangers, who wont even know who I am.
With all this pain and heart ache, all I need to remember even now is that I do this out of love.
Still I would love to disappear into nothing.